Ordo Rosarius Equilibrio - I M B E C I L E, My Idiot Lover
created by Ordo Rosarius Equilibrio
When my friend Selina - the wild blonde angel who was once my S&M role model - sent me the link to this fetish S&M music video, it was immediately all over me, my blood began to boil, I was completely captivated and entranced and tears of longing welled up in my eyes. After that, it took quite a while before I could think halfway clearly again. At that time I was still a completely inexperienced beginner and always unsure whether I would really find what I was longing for in the BDSM world. Of course, I had found the one or other interesting report, clip and photos on the net... but these were all just snippets, snapshots and much scared me more than that it made me crave for it.
In this clip I finally found a fetish S&M aesthetic where everything was just right for me. Intense music, wonderful images in sensually opulent settings, the story of a beautiful lost woman who finally finds her liberation in bondage. This was the world I wanted to become a part of! Thus "I M B E C I L E, My Idiot Lover" became for me in the first time of my discovery as a sub something like a glimpse into the erotic BDSM heaven to which I wanted to ascend and be led down.
And "Ordo Rosarius Equilibrio" entertained for a long time the pre-play parties and later also the first small play parties I hosted in my loft. That's why these very special artists, who don't just use BDSM and fetish as a sales-boosting or clichéd gimmick, will always have a very special place in my heart and my own wonderful world. Today, of course, I know that the world shown in this video is not the final fulfillment, but one of the first stages on the way there.
Ordo Rosarius Equilibrio" is a Swedish band that was founded back in 1993. I would describe their style as worn goth with industrial elements. The OX-Fanzine (https://www.ox-fanzine.de/interview/ordo-rosarius-equilibrio-4147) describes their project as "a special kind of Erotic Dark Cabaret and Apocalyptic Folk", which is hard to compare musically. I don't think I could provide a better description.
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Why I of all people write a blog about passion, sex and everything around it? Because until a few years ago I myself was still incredibly clueless, preferred to put myself in cuddly dream worlds and was a sweet, yet inconspicuous sexually almost completely inexperienced cutey.